Category: Sex

SHAMELESS with Damien Park

Most of us are already aware of some of the dangers of casual sex with complete strangers. You could be abducted. The sex could be horrible. He or she could be a psychopathic serial killer. You could contract gonorrhea. Etc, etc.

But what do you do when you show up at a stranger’s place expecting just to get off and go home, and the person who greets you isn’t at all what your internet exchange led you to expect?

This is a difficult ethical predicament, unless you are a completely cold-hearted asshole. Do you accuse the person of misleading you? Do you take a straightforward approach and just say “I’m not into it, bye”? Do you make up an excuse to leave before any physical interaction transpires? All of this probably depends on the circumstance. If you’re like me, radical body-and-sex-positive brainwashing has made you feel guilty if you don’t keep an open mind and give people a chance. This can be disastrous; or, as I’ve learned from experience, you can hit the (unexpected) jackpot.

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PROFESSIONAL SEXIN': A Look into the Life of a High-Class Gay Escort

Professional Sexin’ is an expression that applies to a great many sorts of jobs.  I use it to describe my “sexy time” companionship services, but it is also equally applicable to just about anybody in the ‘sex industry.’  Porn movies alone employ thousands of people just in San Fernando Valley that could consider themselves part of Professional Sexin’.  Include strip club employees and all those kids who turn the occasional trick to pay the bills, and we’re into the millions of bodies, just in this country.  Worldwide, Professional Sexin’ is a serious collection of businesses and dedicated employees who reap millions of dollars every year using their skills and their bodies to make people feel good (or bad, depending on what your scene is – who am I to judge?).

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Dylan's Crystal Ball: It was something at first sight

When you live the party lifestyle, you find that it often becomes somewhat routine. There are guys who are always high. There are guys who let loose occasionally. And then there are those you randomly find but often never see again.  But can you find love living this type of lifestyle?

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Justin + 1: The Truth About Text

You gave a guy your number.

You flirted and maybe made out and maybe slept together.

From there, you took it to the world of text messaging. Cute lil mwah mwah kissy-kissy’s sent back and forth to each other with the help of satellites in space.

So adorable!

Then, something goes wrong. The dude of your dreams stops responding. Stops texting.

I’ve been asked before (since apparently I’m old enough to give good advice): How Long Is Too Long for A Guy To Text You Back?

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Theatre Review: "Venus in Fur"

by Jonathan Warman

In this smart, sexy show, Vanda is a young actress determined to land the lead in a new play based on Venus in Fur, a watershed 1870 novel by Leopold von Sacher-Masoch – a book so sexually ahead of its time that the word “masochism” was derived from the author’s name. Playwright David Ives shows us an extended, out-of-control audition in which Vanda and one Thomas, the play’s adapter/director, act out the major scenes in Venus in Fur. It’s all very “meta,” but in a good way.

Ives’s main thematic prey is the psycho-sexual depths explored in the novel – and how Sacher-Masoch, while ahead of his time, was still trapped in many ways by 19th Century prejudices about women. Over and above that, though, Ives also takes ample delight in pointing out the sadomasochistic truth about show business, and auditions in particular.

The play is especially delicious as a tour de force vehicle for two actors. As Vanda, Nina Arianda is wonderful, positively dazzling, legendary, a star in the making. And the adorable Hugh Dancy, wearing a very tight gray t-shirt, is a terrific foil as Thomas – it’s very hot indeed to see this hunk’s skin get flushed in some of the show’s more intense moments. He really gets into it, and it’s extremely sexy.

The show was such a success at its run at the non-profit Manhattan Theatre Club that it has now transferred to a commercial run at the Lyceum Theatre. The duo’s performances have deepened; they seem to share a deeper trust which drives them to take more, and more interesting, risks.

The show’s handful of failings include being too long (even at an hour and 45 minutes, there still is much that could be cut) and the occasional lapse into lazy pretension. That said, Ives has done a marvelous job of making sure that the play isn’t just red meat for actors, but a roller coaster of a good time for the audience. Venus in Fur is a hot plate of kinky fun.

For tickets, click here.

For more reviews and interviews by Jonathan Warman, see his blog Drama Queen.

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